James tells us that if any of us lack wisdom to ask our Heavenly Father who will give liberally , not being double minded, but in faith. As a father of too many children to count(lol), in dealing with my children I always think about what would Yahweh/Yahshua do. How does he want me to react. I speak to my heavenly father about this often. I know that sometimes he can speak to us through others, especially those who are committed to following his ways (though I must admit sometimes our Elohim uses even non believers). i hope and pray he uses you. Any thoughts from everyone would be useful....



This weekend my wife and I got into a 'disagreement'. My 4 year old is on a dance/tap team. they had a show this weekend. She wanted to put 'lip gloss' basically lip stick on her for the show with blush. It goes without saying I objected and there was a scene that followed. Can someone please tell me why it is important for a 4 year old to wear color lip gloss(basically lip stick) and blush???? She is four!!!! I told my wife that if my daughter walked out on that stage with anything on her lips and face I would get up, walk on the stage, and take her off. My daughter did not want my wife to put the lip gloss on her lips. During the performace she did not have it on. However, unfortunately I could not go into the 'dressing room' (no men allowed), which my daughter had to take a picture with her team. My wife put the lip gloss and the blush on her before she took the picture in the dressing room. Later on (yesterday) I found the picture by accident. You could actually see my daugher was unhappy. She was not smling at all and had a very disappointed look on her face. Ofcourse, I proceeded to RIP IT UP!!!! Case Closed!!!!

What do you think? Was I wrong? Was I standing up for something that our Messiah really does not care about?

F.Y.I. Pre performance, my wife and I did speak about it and I told her I object and the reasons why I objected.

Robski,
1. Thank you for chiming in Robski on a very difficult subject/issue. I knew I could count on someone if not many to speak as they are guided. You understand the situation I have placed my self in and for that what you have to say is very important in me. I also know that you love YHWH with all of your heart, mind, and soul; which also makes what you have to say valuable. Your right, this world is a ‘bent’ place.
2. I definitely agree with you , that is the major issue (what she takes from it); crossed that with the world today and the influence from media, other kids, teachers, family; all pointing to the way opposite the one the leads to our heavenly father; I would argue it is even more important to stand for what is right! I believe as parents we need to show our kids where we stand on these issues, in word and action. Thankfully YHWH has given me the ability to speak to my children, and 97% of the time I am not losing my temper with my kids. During this whole ‘confrontation’ I did not lose my temper, holler, or even show anger in addressing it. However, my daughter; both of them, and even my son were able to see where I stood and hear why I stood there, even if they do not understand completely. When they are older and they have to make a decision to follow YHWH or not like the rest of us they will look back and see that daddy was uncompromising; that he was able to love, cherish, communicate, value our hobbies but when it came to following the world or following YHWH, well; let’s say I work everyday by his power to be sure my kids see the line drawn in the sand. Let me say that we need not put the worries of whether kids feel things are fair in rivalry with the word. As a matter of fact that may be a golden opportunity to sit and speak to them and help them to understand the unfairness of life. I praise YHWH that my kids did not see a ‘pissed’ off me; I would agree with you this would not be good. As it is written, be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of Elohim. She still participated in the show, had fun, was smiling (except in the picture), got to sit in daddy’s lap the rest of the show while we watched and I was able to tell her how wonderful she did and more importantly I was able to tell her how we will praise YHWH for giving her the opportunity to perform, keeping her injury free; it was a wonderful opportunity for him to be esteemed.
I truly believe was unhappy because my wife had put the make up on and to me that is a good thing!

3. I have to disagree with you on this point in the context of how the situation was dealt. I believe it was a wonderful victory for our Elohim. She enjoyed the whole show, and she even told my wife that she did not want the make up on. She also told her that make up is not important. She says that YHWH is important. I will have to continue to stand in these issues brother, so my daughter understands not to love the things of this world. Kids need us to tell them and demonstrate truth. They respect that more than we know and I believe YHWH is fighting for me, who shall I be afraid of.

4. I am sure you are a wonderful dad. You have a great father who you follow. We all have our ‘thorns’? I praise my heavenly father for my thorn. It is because of her my relationship by his grace is where it is now.

5. Please, do not jog on Robski. I truly value what you have to say. I know I have been really absent in the last two years in regards to posting much as I was battling my thorn daily, trudging through school, raising kids; but I always remember that when I did post you would always reply to me and you would always at least appear to be happy to hear from me. Things like that mean something to me my brother.
In my family robski (talking of my brothers/sisters/mom) we have a thing that if we ask for each others opinion on something we know that what is said will be said regardless of what you may want to hear. We are brutally honest. I thank you for your candor.

We also must take into account the gravity of my situation. I may be in a situation that just can’t afford me to be very compromising.(and you are relatively aware of the situation) And I tell you what; YHWH knows how to pick em!!

Haha yea completely - your situation is one that amazes me ever time I think about it! I am pretty sure I wouldn't be able to cope.

obviously like I said - I didn't have all the facts, just trying to bring another perspective - but I am glad you could disagree :)

EI Won't mind me saying this because it is already on the forum, but just to bring you up to speed with what seems to be insider knowledge... His wife and her family are Muslim.

I concur on all of the above. To study together, that would be a prayer come true, and a maybe a true relieve from heavy persecution, but again, I praise Yah for my thorn. I will continue to love my wife as Yahushua loved the eklessia, because that is what he calls me to do and I seek to do his will. Praise Yahweh for the understanding he has imparted on me in regards to just what it meant for him to love us first (even though we did not love him)

Five years ago one of the first verses my heavenly father gave me, james 1:2-4. Yahweh wisdom is that which I could never imagine. Almost like he knows the future or something.